About
I'm the blogger and snarky cartoonist known as “Chump Lady.” And the author of “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life – The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide." My work has helped hundreds of thousands of people leave abusive relationships.
In my non-blogging life, I'm a journalist and write about topics as diverse as Thaddeus Stevens for Smithsonian magazine (total Stevens fan girl) to the Dobbs decision for Washington Lawyer to basic service journalism (AARP's Smart Guide to Menopause). Also, I can draw. I illustrated my book, which is being republished in 2016.
I also host a podcast called "Tell Me How You're Mighty" with my cohost Sarah Gorrell, a solo mum of four and a BBC radio broadcaster. We discuss single parenting, divorce, dating, ridiculous things cheaters do, and let people know there's a better life out there after you leave the loser.
Featured Work
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life -- The Chump Lady Survival Guide
In the infidelity literature, cheaters get all the glory—their unmet needs, commitment challenges, and love triangle drama. They are the glamorous taboo breakers, star-crossed lovers, and rebels against the hegemonic forces of monogamy. Chumps (the betrayed partners) by contrast are the dullards left out of the discourse. When mentioned, it’s to discuss how they failed to enchant and must “own their part” in their partner's infidelity.
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life puts the attention squarely on the cheated-upon. Written by a former chump, it’s a resource that champions self-respect. It doesn’t assume reconciliation or buy the victim-blaming narrative that we compel people to cheat on us by our inadequacies (or can win them back by being nicer). Instead, it puts responsibility for affairs squarely on cheaters and their crappy character. It also has a good time lampooning the absurd self-centeredness of cheating.
Based on the writings of Tracy Schorn's popular infidelity blog ChumpLady.com, Schorn offers a masterclass on how to decode manipulation, fight back, and focus on gaining a life after betrayal.
