I am a retired NYC middle school educational administrator who raised 3 children, one of whom was born a twin with the birth defect spina bifida due to his father's exposure to Agent Orange Viet Nam. Dealing with a yet unknown condition and my husband's guilt about this birth, I became an advocate not only for my son, but for all people with disabilities. After my divorce n the 1990's I began writing , but then life interrupted this process as I was sandwiched between my kids, my career, and my aging parents. After my soon passed in2021, I returned to writing more as a therapeutic exercise and wa encouraged by family and friends to get serious about my memoir.